|Our growing family!!|
If you love to read as much as I do, you MIGHT not think this is weird- I have found over the years that whatever book I’m reading on a trip somehow becomes part of the memory of that trip. I like to think that books and words become part of who we are when we read them. So, it seems logical that if I take a book on a trip, it becomes part of that trip.
2008- I saw a book I had never heard of at Borders- The Shack. When I read the cover, I was intrigued so I took it with us on my son’s graduation trip to Costa Rica. I fell in love with that book and watched it become a national bestseller and great movie. I have memories of reading that book while laying out by the pool!!
2010- I read a galley copy of Columbine– about the Colorado school shooting. Published 10 years after the tragic event. It became part of my girls trip with my daughter, sister, and friends when we went to NYC the summer after my daughter graduated.
2012- I read Carol Radziwill’s account of losing her husband to cancer right after losing her best friend and her husband’s cousin JFK Jr in What Remains on a trip to Europe with my kids the summer after my husband passed away. Reading the words from a widow who had suffered a tragic event- several tragic events- gave me the strength to move forward.
So it seems very appropriate that I remember the book I was reading the weekend of my son’s wedding. I checked out Promise Me Dad on my overdrive app the week before we left to go back to Texas for my son’s wedding. I had been preparing myself emotionally for how I would handle the day of celebration without his dad. I held tight to some advice that a dear friend told me when my son graduated from college.
My late husband passed away about eight months before my son graduated from college. His graduation that December marked our first milestone celebration without his dad. I was talking to my friend, Claire, about facing that celebration and that I didn’t know how I was going to sit through it without him. She just told me straight- “It will be sad that R isn’t there to see it. But you will be there to see it. Don’t let the sadness overshadow that fact that you are lucky enough to get to be there.”
Wow- that is just a sample of some of the great advice that I got from so many after his death. I tried to remember this as the wedding approached, and I made sure that when I danced with my son at the wedding reception, I told him that I didn’t take it for granted that I got to be there with him on his special night!!
|How lucky am I that I got to dance with my son at his wedding reception!!|
Reading Joe Biden’s book during this time became part of the memory of the wedding for me. The main theme of the book is Joe Biden fulfilling his son’s request to “Promise Me, Dad” that you’ll continue to live a life of purpose. He ends the book with this scripture:
2 Timothy 4:7
|Some of my great friends. All of these women were great sources of strength to me when I was|
raising my kids!!