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The Power Of Words

May 5, 2017 by Sharon

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For a blessing,  read this article:  from She Loves magazine.

I love this article about blog writing. Writing about one’s life is opening a soul to a world that is very judgemental. I am lucky that so many people have been so supportive of my ramblings!! Although this article is meant to encourage bloggers, I think it has a great meaning for everyone. We all have thoughts, musings, hopes, dreams. We have the ability to verbalize these gifts.

I’ve heard from many people in my life how much journaling has helped them deal with a tragedy. I know when I reached out to Dr. T after R passed away, I would literally verbally vomit on the page. It was truly a stream of consciousness email of all of the thoughts, emotions, fears and small victories (my first day I made it all day without crying) with no censorship or editing!!! He read each word and had a word or advice or encouragement to offer me!! I just know that after each email to him, I felt better and stronger. Words have a way of cleansing the soul.

I guess words are like tears. We can’t keep them bottled up. We must let them out. Words come to me like tears. The process of putting my thoughts on the page is very cathartic, therapeutic, and much needed.

I once had a conversation with my wonderful mother about people who regret the things that they didn’t say to a loved one who had passed away. We wanted to make sure that there was nothing left unsaid between us. That is what I want my life to be. I don’t want it to be filled with regrets of things left unsaid. I believe that everyone in my life knows what they mean to me. They know how much their help and support have meant to me.

When R died, I had no regrets in this area. We had done that for each other. We had said what needed to be said to each other. We had started affirming each other and our relationship regularly! I’m so thankful for that. And now, my family and close friends tell each other “I love you” on a regular basis. Dr. T is bombarded with my words to him of how much I love him and how much he means to me. I won’t ever stop telling him how important he is in my life.

Writing a blog can be daunting. It can be scary. It can be emotional, revealing, and raw. This blog has been the best thing that I could have done at this stage fo my life. I know it isn’t to everyone’s liking, and that’s OK. What it has done for me has been remarkable- it has filled a void with something that I love and need in my life– ideas, thoughts… WORDS. It has been a balm to the rawness and rough edges of my life.

My favorite thoughts from this article:

“Your words are a testament to God’s presence at work in ordinary human beings like you.”

and

“If we are lovers of Jesus, then hoarding our gifts is not an option.”   

“The heart of living a Jesus-centered life is a selfless sacrifice. And if you have been given the gift of words, then you are meant to share them.”

I don’t know how “gifted” I am with words, but I do believe that God has gifted me with the desire to write and share ideas. I have such a different perspective on life than I did five years ago. If nothing else my words have helped me and a few others who have reached out to me to let me know. I don’t worry anymore about what people think. I try so hard in my life not to judge others and their lives so my hope is that others don’t judge me. But if they do judge me negatively, that has nothing to do with me. — I’ve come a long way!!

We have all been given the gift of words in the sense that God has given us emotions and feelings and most importantly LOVE. We all have the capacity to put these things into words. Do the people that you love in your life know how you truly feel about them? Have you told them lately that you love them? Have you told them lately specifically what they mean in your life? If not, don’t hoard these gifts of relationships that God has given you. Tell those people… before you don’t have the chance anymore. 

It is my prayer that through this blog, my “little my become much” in the lives of those who read it. 

Thanks for reading it today. You are a blessing in my life!!


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After her husband’s sudden and unexpected death, Sharon McCuistian found herself a widow at the age of 48. With two grown children in college, Sharon had to find a way to live in her new reality. She turned to the things she loved to help in her grief: faith, family, and friends. Her love of words and writing became the cathartic venue by which she began to process her loss. It is through her grief journey that Now Choose Life was born. Read More

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