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Life After Loss- Meaningful Gift For My Late Husband

February 6, 2021 by Sharon

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The most meaningful gift I gave my late husband I gave to him the night before he passed away. Life After Loss is always bittersweet.

We had both been out of town for our work the previous two weeks. He flew home on a Friday night. Our 26th wedding anniversary had been earlier that week.

Life was crazy with work, two kids in college, and keeping up a home. We decided to celebrate our anniversary that Saturday night by staying one night on the San Antonio Riverwalk.

The most meaningful gift I gave my late husband

While eating at a restaurant within walking distance of our hotel, I gave him his gift. A new wedding band with my matching band in the box. I had no idea what size he needed so I just bought one. They are so inexpensive, and I wanted to completely surprise him with matching bands that I just order his in whatever size I found. I would reorder the right size later.

tungsten rings
Tungsten Carbide Rings can be purchased HERE.

The funniest memory from that night is that the ring was way too small. He put it on his pinky finger and said, “You bought me a pinky ring?” No, I explained. I wanted us to have matching rings that we could wear and not be afraid of losing them. Cheap rings to wear if we ran a race together or went on a trip.

He spent some time explaining to me how strong Tungsten Carbide is. We spent a little time talking about how we were strong too as a couple. We had raised our kids. We had made it through those tough years that break some couples. We were strong.

Until we weren’t. The next evening as we were getting ready for bed looking forward to the week ahead of us. R collapsed. He did not recover. He was gone.

The next week is a blur, but my family rallied around me at our home. I told my family the story of the rings. My brother-in-law suggested that I bury that ring with him, which I did.

Why Is It My Most Meaningful Gift?

I now were my matching ring almost every day. Even though I’m remarried, I still have a connection to what was. I’m reminded every time I wear it of what I had.

matching wedding bands
most meaningful gift I gave my late husband
My ring that matches my late husband’s

Does Dr. T mind that I still wear that ring (on my right hand)? No, not in the least. He gets it. He lost his first wife too soon as well. He and I have such a connection because of our loss, there is very little that we don’t understand about the other and support.

What’s Your Most Meaningful Gift?

Maybe you haven’t given it yet.

Have you thought of what to buy your spouse for Valentine’s Day? How about rings that show how strong you are?

There are so many fun options for rings these days. Here are some of my favorites:

Silicone Rings

Rings Can Be Purchased HERE.

Thunderfit Rings

most meaningful gift I gave my late husband
Can Be Purchased HERE.

Which is better titanium or tungsten?

I’ve read that tungsten is the stronger of the two metals and is scratch resistant.

Does black wedding band mean?

Ring makers advertise black rings as symbolizing eternal commitment as well as the strength of that commitment.

To Read Other Posts On Life After Loss

I Didn’t Get First Place- Valentine’s Writing Contest

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Comments

  1. Carol Karl says

    February 8, 2021 at 12:56 pm

    This post brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful memory.

    Reply
    • Sharon says

      February 8, 2021 at 2:01 pm

      Thank you, Carol! It is a beautiful memory!!

      Reply

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After her husband’s sudden and unexpected death, Sharon McCuistian found herself a widow at the age of 48. With two grown children in college, Sharon had to find a way to live in her new reality. She turned to the things she loved to help in her grief: faith, family, and friends. Her love of words and writing became the cathartic venue by which she began to process her loss. It is through her grief journey that Now Choose Life was born. Read More

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