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Grief- none of us will escape grief. At some point in everyone’s life grief will enter, and once it has entered your life, it will never leave. You have to learn to live with it.

I have no formal training on grief support. I like to say that I have a PhD in Grief from the school of hard knocks. 

My training in knowing about grief came on April 29,2012 when my husband of 26 years collapsed and died instantly. It was a night that changed my and my children’s lives forever.

Being a widow at the age of 48 with two children in college, my life was hardly over. I had to find a way to reinvent myself in a life that I didn’t want. A new life that I didn’t choose was hard to navigate, but with much support from family and friends, I found my way.

This blog is my experience with grief. 2012 seems like a lifetime ago, but in many ways it feels like yesterday. I hope you found me and this space at just the right time in your grief journey. Everyone’s journey is different. 

The choice is yours as to how you want to travel this journey. You can stay in a perpetual state of sadness or you can Choose Life and go on living. The choice is yours.

 This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live          Deuteronomy 30:19

Grief- None of us will escape grief

What are the stages of grief? The Kubler Ross stages of grief were derived from researching people who have been giving a diagnosis that is terminal. It has been my experience that those stages of grief do not occur for those of us left behind after the death of a loved one. Grief tends to be a twisted back and forth journey. There are no stages, but there are emotions that are common.

What is grief? Grief is what we are left with when someone we love dies. It is the void, emotions, and loneliness of living life without a person who meant so much to us.

How do I get over my grief? I’m sorry to tell you, but you will never “get over” your grief. You will however, learn to live with it. Time and much hard work will help you along your journey. No two journeys in grief are alike because no two relationships are alike.

For Faith Based Grief Support Visit GriefShare.

Sample Posts From Now Choose Life:

I Think Of You Who No Longer Answers

Grief and PMS

Life After Loss- 10 Years

Grief Blogs, Books and Resources
Life After Loss- A Glimpse

After her husband’s sudden and unexpected death, Sharon McCuistian found herself a widow at the age of 48. With two grown children in college, Sharon had to find a way to live in her new reality. She turned to the things she loved to help in her grief: faith, family, and friends. Her love of words and writing became the cathartic venue by which she began to process her loss. It is through her grief journey that Now Choose Life was born. Read More

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