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Choose to Live Your Life in Abundance in the after--- after the spouse dies, after the marriage ends, after the kids leave. Join me on my journey of CHOOSING LIFE in my after. This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live- Deut 30:19

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November 29, 2016

What I Learned In November 2016

I hope that I continue to learn, and I hope the lessons become more profound as I age.  Some months it seems to be simple lessons learned while other months, the lessons learned are much more profound.

Here is what I learned in November:

1.  I have an extremely supportive husband.  Several things have happened over the past few weeks and months where Dr. T has shown his love and support.  I always knew that that he was behind me and there for me, but this month he has read and and helped me edit a piece I wrote for another blog. He has allowed my sweet little dog, Scout, to come and live with us ( he will have to dog sit for me next weekend). He keeps telling me that he wants me to be happy. His love and support make me very happy!

2.  You don't need two spaces after periods!! Where have I been? Really- where have I been? I guess I'm a dinosaur. Dr. T and I had a conversation about my double spaces, but I told him that when you double space it supplies the period automatically. However, I guess that is just when I'm texting. I really never paid any attention to it while typing. I have very spastic fingers while typing and since I just verbally vomit on the page when typing my thoughts, I really never paid any attention. This month, I read an article on the "double space", had a conversation with Dr. T, and had to correct all double spaces in a blog post I wrote for another blog.

3.  I like to linger. I like the word "linger." According to, linger is defined as- "to remain or stay in a place longer than is usual or expected, as if from reluctance to leave." I love the phrase, "reluctance to leave." The older I get, the more I find that I enjoy to linger. Linger over a glass of wine, linger at the dinner table, linger in a hug with my husband or family members. To linger is a great show of affection to
someone. You are reluctant to leave their presence! That is a nice thing. This realization came to me at my parents' house over Thanksgiving. The whole family gathers in the living room with coffee and a breakfast snack in the mornings, and we tend to linger there. Topics of discussion vary dramatically from politics to funny retelling of stories, but still we linger- every time. That's a great memory that I have.

4.  Unconditional love and grace are necessities in life. Maybe it's been the election and how truly mean I've seen people be to each other, but I believe that if we can't show unconditional love and grace to others, we are honoring God with our lives.  We really have nothing else of any substance to give to the people in our lives.

There you have it!!  All valuable lessons!
November 02, 2016

I would drape myself in velvet if it were socially acceptable

I love velvet for winter!!  I don't go to a lot of parties during the holidays.  When my kids were young, our social life revolved around their activities.  After they grew up, we just enjoyed the simple times of being together and just hanging out.

In my new life in New Mexico, I don't really have any friends to be invited to a lot of holiday parties so I'm not expecting any invitations.  However, Dr T does have one friends who has a great dinner party every December.  He calls it his birthday dinner party, but it is really a way to get his friends together to celebrate the season.  I've been looking online for something to wear- isn't that half the fun of having a special event to go to???  The dinner party will be festive, yet casual.

One thing that has caught my eye is the velvet blouse!!  I have a couple of pairs of velvet pants for the winter months, but haven't had a velvet blouse in years.  Here are a few that I'm thinking about.

Anthropologie - velvet halter


I love the vintage look of this blouse.

Anthropologie off the shoulder-  I love all the colors available in this!!

Soft Surroundings- Boyfriend Shirt-  I love the bold color of this shirt!!

Please help!!!  Which one should I choose??